Don't check on me. I am fine. I am just sitting here feeling everything that has ever happened to anyone, ever.
—every highly sensitive person ever, probably
How therapy works
Sometimes being a therapist can feel a little bit like being in a culty multi-level marketing scheme.
Every training I've ever taken promises to heal all the things.
And the truth is, that it just depends.
Essentially, what all of the research on therapy tells us, again and again, is that what best predicts good outcomes in therapy is the relationship you have with your therapist.
Basically what it comes down to is this:
Do you like your therapist?
Do you trust your therapist?
Do you feel safe with your therapist?
It's not that the "how" isn't important. You should talk to any therapist you're considering working with about how they do the work.
But it's just that what seems to be more impactful is the relationship.
Does your therapist do a good job of tuning in to you?
Are they paying attention and adjusting accordingly based on what is going on IN THE ROOM, with you, in this moment.
That magical space between you and your therapist. THAT'S the work.
The goal isn't endless processing —it's durable, real change that shows up in your work, your relationships, and in how you feel each morning when you wake up, ready rather than depleted.
We draw on psychodynamic insight to understand why certain patterns keep recurring — where did this start? And I teach you trauma-focused, attachment-based, and practical tools from multiple modalities to interrupt them.
My approach is precise, relational, and grounded in how the body and mind actually heal. We use somatic awareness to work directly with your nervous system, learning how to metabolize stress rather than just talk about it.
That being said, here's how I choose to do it...
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