Free Stuff, YAY*
*Not a substitute for ACTUAL therapy
STEP 3: Your window of tolerance is your "sweet spot". the emotional zone where you can think, feel, and respond without becoming overwhelmed or shut down. Again — and I can't stress this enough — GO SLOWLY. There's no award for feeling ALL THE FEELS all at once. Pace yourself.
STEP 1: Start here! Please don't try to white knuckle your way through ALL THE FEELS all at once. Only feel as much as you can tolerate. Stay safe. Stay slow. If at any time you feel overwhelmed, BACK UP + BACK OUT. Ground yourself in a coping strategy.
Step 4: Use coping strategies to ground yourself if you feel overwhelmed. Growth happens gently, slowly over time, not all at once. You don't need to push yourself to the edge. Tuning in and returning builds resilience. Safety allows expansion. GO SLOWLY.
STEP 2: Use this to help identify and label your emotions — often there’s a better fit beneath the surface label. Start at the center and work your way out. BE CURIOUS. We're not trying to fix it, we're just feeling it. Let the feeling be. We're collecting data, not chasing relief.
Make an Anxiety Kit with me:
Welcome to your Feelings! A step-by-Step Guide
Or follow here:
You Tube Links:
Videos I use and find helpful.
Connect
Contact
hello@thelightholdercounseling.com
+1-669-250-1296
© 2026 The Lightholder Counseling All rights reserved.